So, New Year’s has come and gone and you probably made some resolutions, taking on the big quests or rep grinds for the year. Maybe you want to get out of debt or lose those last 10 pounds. But have you ever asked yourself why? How is it going to make you feel when you do? What’s your motivation? New Year’s is a lovely quest giver but why the heck are you choosing to run them in the first place? The Desire Map will help you make sure you’re running the right quests for the right reasons.
I’ve been following Danielle since the early days of her publishing career. She definitely leans to the woo woo side, a tough-talking, realist woo woo but woo woo none the less. The Desire Map is no exception. Even the title might give you pause. “Desire, huh? That sounds… hmm…”, but I encourage you to push past it because the concept and process behind it is pure gold.
The basic concept behind the book is that we are making our goals all wrong. A tough but fair statement seeing as how, if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably failed to reach quite a few of your goals and not really understood why you lacked motivation or worse, achieved the goal and felt no sense of achievement. Thanks, brain.
The Desire Map asks instead “how do I want to feel?” and then from there, you create goals that will get you to that feeling. I know that sounds really simple and it is at face value, but the meat of the book is getting to the real answers to that question. It’s much harder than you think and you’ll generally be very surprised at what comes to the surface.
I have a group of friends who Desire Mapped together and each of us has not only gotten closer to one another through honest sharing of ourselves, but we’ve each gotten more focused on the things we actually want rather than the things we thought we wanted. We’ve also gotten quite a lot of them done! Everyone’s at least a little susceptible to the vision society, family or friends have for our lives. Taking the time to go through the steps to see how you want to feel and then asking yourself, “what do I need to do to feel that?” is so valuable. It removes the noise and allows you to get laser-focused on what will make you feel better. From there, it’s just a matter of doing the thing. If you’re doing it right, the process will get you feeling the way you want to feel and it will be it’s own motivation.
I try and Desire Map yearly or whenever I feel like I’ve gotten lost as to what to do next. This year, my words were DAUNTLESS, NOURISHED, TRANQUIL AND ENCHANTED. Dauntless is what got me back into Running Westholme, into writing and remembering I had a voice and a message to share with the world. It got me back into the gym and taking my fitness and health seriously. Nourished reminds me to take care of my body and mind, leading me back to Miracle Mornings (another totally amazing book!) Tranquil got me a lovely office and has kicked off a massive declutter. Enchanted reminds me to step away from the desk, take a chance on the traffic and go down to Disneyland once in awhile, grab a Frappuccino and just soak in the magic. These words help me craft a day and a life that bring me real happiness and a feeling of accomplishment. I used them to create my 2018 goals and now when I look at my list, the feeling I get is “I can’t wait to see myself complete these!” rather than “oh man, I have to do these or else I’ve failed”
As of the publishing of this article, Danielle is giving The Desire Map e-book and audiobook away for free so if you want to get into it, it’s easier than ever. However, I do suggest either purchasing the book (Amazon), a workbook or printing the pages of the second half from the e-book. In my experience, it’s so much easier to brain dump onto and see patterns on a piece of paper than digitally.
I hope this post has encouraged you to check out the book. If you do, let us know your words or how the process is going for you. You can do that by leaving a comment below, hitting us up on Twitter or on our Facebook page. Until next time, happy questing!